There is a song by Sara Bareilles, Little Voice, from an Apple TV show by the same Little Voice. The song speaks to my heart and has inspired me to pay attention and listen more carefully to the little voice inside of me. Our “little voice” is so important for each of us to get to know.
We all have a little voice. We can find clarity, peace, direction, and power in our lives as we learn to find our voice, listen carefully, and hear that little voice. We have so much wisdom inside of ourselves and are often too busy to find, or hear, but we can make changes and b so glad we did. There are many reasons a person may not be able to hear that little voice.
There is no need for judgment. We are doing our best. If the time is right for you to look beyond “excuses” and if the time is right to dig into explanations, we can find those. Getting to explanations can be tricky, complicated, and confusing at times.
Where is my voice inside of me? Why can’t I hear it now?
Our little voice IS inside of us. Sometimes we judge ourselves, condemn ourselves and think things (self-talk) that are unhealthy for our Spirit, body, mind, and mess with our emotions too. We can change. We can learn to be present, to identify these thoughts and learn different ways to think. Cognitive therapy can help us begin this journey. Mindfulness can enhance our journey and play time can enrich our life experiences too. We can discover our little voice and make friends with that part of ourselves too.
Some of us have experienced different types of trauma that can block us from being able to hear the little voice. Sometimes trauma is what happened to us and sometimes what did not happen for us as we were growing up. Some people have trauma experiences that have created difficulties across the board in our lives.
Trauma has become a quick word some folks use without understanding the power and impact of various types of trauma that may have occurred in our lives. Trauma can leave scars, holes, and impact us deeply too. Life is full of situations that may have seemed “normal” at the time but were not. Eventually we can grow to justify what was going on. Still, it was unhealthy for us.
Often, we are unaware of so much in our own lives that has hindered us and continues to stunt our growth. We can “want” to do better, be better, and yet we just cannot. Frustration, depression, anxiety, eating disordered behaviors and so much more can occur in our inner and outer world. Even if we think none of this is drama related or that our behaviors are not impacting others, we are wrong. We can change.
There are often no explanations until we get to the root cause, which may take a while and we may need to go to therapy. Once we can begin to identify the reasons we are where we are currently, and make slow but steady shifts and changes, our world will be better. We will be happier, healthy, more emotionally balanced, able to be the ways we are meant to be too.
Life can be tricky. People do the best they can do at the time. This does not create excuses for behaviors that harm others, or themselves, but a way to look at things. “Doing the best, we can” or “doing the best they can” can allow time and space to explore and hope can increase.
Once we can gain insight and understanding, we can make changes. This can take a great deal of persistent work, consistent practice, and ongoing learning. This may sound like a lot, and it can be, but the alternatives are worse.
We all need to take care of ourselves. Some of us need to do more work in our lives than others. This is life. What a gift to ourselves and those in our circles when we do the work that is needed, to replace, repair, heal and move forward in or lives.
Being able to connect with the little voice inside of ourselves will help us meet each one of the needs in our lives. We can learn to really love ourselves, which will make a positive impact across every area of our lives. We can learn to stay alive and live fully, not merely survive. We can learn to set healthy boundaries and enjoy the freedom that come with that too. Our sense of power in our lives will increase in ways that we cannot imagine, even with confidence, our sense of self and ability to make healthy choices too. We will have more fun.
That little voice is a gift we do not want to miss or loose or ignore.
This song says so much about our little voice. Let’s practice giving ourselves “the benefit of the doubt”. We can each ponder what it means to us, and we may see changes in that as time passes. Enjoy the journey we call life.
This is from the Apple TV series, found on utube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rfQJ9VhG8po
In case you, like me love reading lyrics, here you go!
Little Voice
Sara Bareilles
It’s everything I am and what I’m not
And all I’m trying to be
This is the part where I spit it all out
You decide what you think of me
I’m not trying to be complicated
I’m never waiting to get the last laugh
But I’ve been handing out benefits of the doubt
I’d like a little bit back
It’s just a little voice
And if you’re listening
Sometimes a little voice
Can say the biggest things
It’s just my little voice that I’ve been missing
Looking over the precious moments, it hurts, don’t it?
They can cut both ways
No amount of remembering the better things
Will make the bad ones go away
But I’ve been broken and the one to blame
So my saviour is self defense
Taught me to sing what I can’t say
It’s just a little voice
And if you’re listening
Sometimes a little voice
Can say the biggest things
It’s just my little voice that I’ve been missing
I will be loud
I’m coming out to tell you words are not enough
I will be loud
I’m coming out to tell you noise is not enough
I will be loud
I’m coming out to tell you words are not enough
I will be loud
I’m coming out to tell you noise is not enough
It’s the reason you whisper
You love her alone
We’ve been handed the mountaintops
To sing from and we still don’t
Sometimes a little voice can say the biggest things
It’s juts my little voice that I’ve been missing
It’s juts my little voice that I’ve been missing
It’s juts my little voice that I’ve been missing
Written by: Sara Beth Bareilles
Album: More Love – Songs from Little Voice Season One
Released: 2020
Lyrics provided by Musixmatch
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