When and Where

Start early or start anytime!

We can begin at home, changing a way we think and asking different questions, such as: “What does the child need?” instead of “What is wrong with the child?” This seemingly little change can make a huge impact on the adult’s attitudes and therefore the child’s feelings, behaviors and attitudes about them self. We can shape how a child feels by helping them understand The 5 Needs early in life. 


An angry child (or adult) can transform into a person with empathy (towards them self and others) by helping them understand The 5 Needs we all share in life. Keep in mind: “Our behaviors and attitudes often reflect how we do or do not meet our needs in everyday life.” Where can you use The 5 Needs?  

The 5 Needs materials are ADAPTABLE to work with you

Not just program. The 5 Needs are a perfect foundation to begin groups and even relationships. The 5 Needs gives a jumping-off spot, an opening, a way to connect with others without being “preachy.” 


The 5 Needs can provide a way to create meaning in meetings. People can leave with information to take and use immediately. 


Once a need is opened up, you may be surprised how much conversation can flow. "Secrets" have been shared in groups due to the topic (example: Love and Belonging has allowed people to talk about abuse in their past) and individuals have been able to talk about a variety of serious issues that may have otherwise gone unnoticed, unidentified, and not discussed, yet are essential to their healing and growth. The 5 Needs materials have been a platform for jumping into topics, situations and talks that have proven very meaningful and helpful. 


The 5 Needs can be taught anywhere!  

  • You can teach them in groups at school  Specific or boys or girls
  • You can teach them in the classroom through "Guidance" or "Health" lessons 
  • You can teach them in church (as part of Sunday School or Vacation Bible School or youth groups)
  • You can teach them as part of a program, or on their own
  • You can use them in therapy sessions
  • You can teach them in homeless shelters
  • You can teach them in transition shelters
  • Women’s groups
  • Group homes
  • Domestic violence shelters
  • At the dinner table
  • At bedtime with stories
  • Shelters for teens · 
  • Homes where children who are in foster care live, to help normalize their life somewhat and show them we have much in common
  •  MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) groups 
  • With older adults in groups to tell their stories and leave a legacy (let the children or grandchildren record their stories and create a lasting book)
  • You can use The 5 Needs alone  and we STRONGLY suggest you do a workbook for yourself before teaching The 5 Needs to anyone else, so that you know what your needs are and how you are meeting them. You want your talk to have meaning and understanding yourself and your needs will enhance your work.  

No "Cure All" but meant for ALL

The 5 Needs can be used to bridge a gap between generations. No matter what our age, situation, race, gender, we all have the same needs. How we meet them varies and is dependent on many factors including (but not limited to) our age, life situation, abilities, financial resources, and desires. Older people can be a wonderful resource, and telling of their stores about how they met their needs decades ago can enrich relationships.  

What have YOU done with The 5 Needs in your life and work?

Would you share your stories and experiences with us? We want to know. We all have unique situations and different people and places we are using The 5 Needs, sharing helps us all. Contact us at Wendy@the5needs.com and we will get back  with you. 

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